Updated: Sep 19, 2021
I have been pondering this statement ever since I recorded my podcast with Wayne Ferreira, which you can listen to on any of your favorite podcasting platforms.
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Wayne and I talked about "Doing the best they can" when it comes to overbearing sports parents; however, I think this mindset is helpful for many other situations. What attracts me to this mindset the most is that it allows me to accept reality and make the best of what I have gone through. It inspires me to turn challenging situations into a benefit and see how I am better because of the experience.
I find this perspective very useful and refreshing, especially when looking at difficult situations in the past or present. Living with the mindset helps my brain from spinning out of control and overanalyzing why this or that did or didn't happen. It also puts me into a more positive mood about the world where I don't have to question people's actions and intentions. I find that the purpose of questioning them has never really led to a positive outcome anyway. I find it useless and a big waste of my brainpower. We all are doing the best we can, given our experiences, mental models, what we know, how we perceive the situation, what we have learned in life, how we see the world, how we see ourselves, and how we see others.
Are there any situations in your life where it would help you to explore and apply this mindset?
Putting this mindset into practice:
Recently, it seems to me like the world might be getting more and more out of control. What I mean by this is that there appears to be a lot of anger and judgment, which is then further magnified by some of the newer communication channels that are not the most effective way of communicating. Below are a few questions that might be useful, when you find yourself in this situation:
Is stating my judgment/ observation helpful?
Am I in a situation where my judgment is appropriate?
By judging this person and their actions, is there anything positive that comes out of it?
How does it impact my state of mind and personal energy levels?
How does it benefit others? (Sometimes, things may not be easy to do/ say but are important for others to hear.)
Are others open to hearing my observation/ opinion? Are they asking me for feedback?
Where can this mindset "We all are doing the best we can." serve you?
AND are you doing the best you can given the talents you have?